Around 4 months ago i came to a pressure point in a relationship where there was no choice but to act. Reminds me of ye olde quote often attributed to Anais Nin...but I guess is actually from Elizabeth Appell. "And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." Make no mistake, even though there's pain in the tight "bud" the blossoming can be equally as painful but at least you're growing...not stagnating. Thanks for this!
I have taken the leap also and appreciate that quote, it contains so much. Leaving a toxic 18 year marriage that was in question for 10 years was incredibly empowering. The journey to get there was the hardest. The decision to finally leave was exhilarating with so much hope coupled with oh so much fear of the unknown…how would it turn out, particularly for my 2 children (12 & 14). Realising that I was not doing my kids a favour staying but actually doing them harm in modelling such a dysfunctional and unhappy relationship was the motivation.
I've had this question on mind for a while now.Wow.And Its true I could feel the stagnant energy in between.It comes to a point where you see it so clearly too and cant ignore it any longer!!!Thank you
Very insightful and clear explanation of human behavior which often hinders our betterment when more often than not it's just a matter of sheer will power. I didn't have understanding of this "wisdom" but as I recall memories of my parent's struggles with change I now see how it affected their lives. It's helped my life to follow their example.
Fantastic post! I think we always follow what we truly desire. I had a conversation recently with someone about free will. What it comes down to is that we don't really have free will. We were always destined to do the same thing over and over. It's tied to biology, physics. Decisions are made long before the thought comes into our minds. They're buried there somewhere. I think that's why we don't take action. Deep down we prefer to follow desire...or the familiar, as you say.
Fascinating thought - the chasm between thought and action. Such articles and essays are for ever. Would love the author to write more and convert this into a book. Not to provide solutions and remedies. But to explore the mental and psychological barriers that stop 'knowing' flowering into 'doing'. Would love to read more on this topic especially in relation to management and entrepreneurship. Why great ideas don't manifest into action and business. Final word - excellent post. Will post this on my Linkedin page.
You punched me straight in the mouth today with this one. I'll have no choice but to ask you now to please stop spying on my soul. The rock and the hard place ... how that scenario becomes a comfort zone, I'll never quite comprehend ... yet, I fluff my granite pillow and lay my head down once again... knowing it doesn't have to be that way.
This article is revelatory, and hits the nail on the head! Thank you!
Around 4 months ago i came to a pressure point in a relationship where there was no choice but to act. Reminds me of ye olde quote often attributed to Anais Nin...but I guess is actually from Elizabeth Appell. "And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." Make no mistake, even though there's pain in the tight "bud" the blossoming can be equally as painful but at least you're growing...not stagnating. Thanks for this!
I have taken the leap also and appreciate that quote, it contains so much. Leaving a toxic 18 year marriage that was in question for 10 years was incredibly empowering. The journey to get there was the hardest. The decision to finally leave was exhilarating with so much hope coupled with oh so much fear of the unknown…how would it turn out, particularly for my 2 children (12 & 14). Realising that I was not doing my kids a favour staying but actually doing them harm in modelling such a dysfunctional and unhappy relationship was the motivation.
Wow!!!! I cannot even begin to articulate how grateful I am for this article. I am gobsmacked and grateful. So very much.
I've had this question on mind for a while now.Wow.And Its true I could feel the stagnant energy in between.It comes to a point where you see it so clearly too and cant ignore it any longer!!!Thank you
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Such a Great Text. I appreciate it very much. It’s exactly what I need to read and understand.
Very insightful and clear explanation of human behavior which often hinders our betterment when more often than not it's just a matter of sheer will power. I didn't have understanding of this "wisdom" but as I recall memories of my parent's struggles with change I now see how it affected their lives. It's helped my life to follow their example.
Fantastic post! I think we always follow what we truly desire. I had a conversation recently with someone about free will. What it comes down to is that we don't really have free will. We were always destined to do the same thing over and over. It's tied to biology, physics. Decisions are made long before the thought comes into our minds. They're buried there somewhere. I think that's why we don't take action. Deep down we prefer to follow desire...or the familiar, as you say.
Thanks for this article. It helped me.
Fascinating thought - the chasm between thought and action. Such articles and essays are for ever. Would love the author to write more and convert this into a book. Not to provide solutions and remedies. But to explore the mental and psychological barriers that stop 'knowing' flowering into 'doing'. Would love to read more on this topic especially in relation to management and entrepreneurship. Why great ideas don't manifest into action and business. Final word - excellent post. Will post this on my Linkedin page.
You punched me straight in the mouth today with this one. I'll have no choice but to ask you now to please stop spying on my soul. The rock and the hard place ... how that scenario becomes a comfort zone, I'll never quite comprehend ... yet, I fluff my granite pillow and lay my head down once again... knowing it doesn't have to be that way.
triste is truly revealing and inspiring such a good start to Takeshi action and be more concious about the desicions web make
In Ayurveda they teach us that one of the 3 main causes of disease is prajnaparadha, which means “failure of the intellect”.
To know and not to do is actually regarded as a cause of disease in India.
Pretty cool.
Beautiful
“Unlived knowledge” usually isn’t missing information. It’s avoided cost.
People move when staying becomes more expensive than leaving.
Structure is what lets that shift happen without a willpower binge.
This is really reveling.
Thank you