In as much as I want to shift towards a mindset that allows me to be free of thinking that everyone actions and choices and moods are targeted towards me,I still find myself returning to the same place cos sometimes you feel so overwhelmed by emotion you think that everyone is out to get you in a sense,so my query is how are we to start this journey of trying to have such a strong change of heart from life is happening to me to life is happening around me?
Perhaps this is an emotional response to trauma experienced or witnessed and you’re scanning your environment to be safe. Trauma alters our sense of self and safety and can place us on high alert assessing who, what is safe and if it’s focused on us then it must be my fault that I’m abused.. perception is altered. Loving self is key.
Where's this philosophical perspective been during my lifetime? The article is insightful to progressively understanding one's actual place in the context of this maelstrom of existence. From an early age I began having the desire to be older because I would then be smarter, wiser, better equipped for life. I've come to realize that just the experience gained in the passage of one's life doesn't equate to a wise being. And my own existence is an insufficient resource.
I needed to read this today. Thank you! As a highly sensitive person, who tries to take a Stoic approach to life, I am always challenged by different experiences. Reminders like this are so helpful though.
You are the sky not the weather...a helpful tip and already well known is to pause slightly before replying to something you are unsure about...take a breath and say, 'although I mostly agree, I feel...' and get clarification from the other person before assuming their motivation was to attack you. It most likely wasn't and after a poor night's sleep, too much coffee or too much stimulation from other people and work, you are probably not clear in your thinking. The email or written response rule is even easier...wait five mins and then re read before sending. Be the calm observer not the maelstrom.
This is exactly what I needed to read at this point in my stoic studies and journey. Lately I have been reflecting on my emotional reactions to people and how I’ve responded with feeling hurt. Thinking in terms of life being like the weather gives me a new frame of reference to work with. Thank you for this post.
Such a well written, amazingly articulate article. Every that was mentioned in this article, I completely resonated with and I am keen to incorporate the mechanisms to overcome these issues.
It's really not what people say or do to you that matters. The thing that matters is what part of your psyche has been triggered is it neglect ,not being seen, you feel abandoned etc. It's about you and if you let their words or actions rock your world. No one has the power over your mind only you do. Be free and flow like water.
In as much as I want to shift towards a mindset that allows me to be free of thinking that everyone actions and choices and moods are targeted towards me,I still find myself returning to the same place cos sometimes you feel so overwhelmed by emotion you think that everyone is out to get you in a sense,so my query is how are we to start this journey of trying to have such a strong change of heart from life is happening to me to life is happening around me?
Perhaps this is an emotional response to trauma experienced or witnessed and you’re scanning your environment to be safe. Trauma alters our sense of self and safety and can place us on high alert assessing who, what is safe and if it’s focused on us then it must be my fault that I’m abused.. perception is altered. Loving self is key.
Where's this philosophical perspective been during my lifetime? The article is insightful to progressively understanding one's actual place in the context of this maelstrom of existence. From an early age I began having the desire to be older because I would then be smarter, wiser, better equipped for life. I've come to realize that just the experience gained in the passage of one's life doesn't equate to a wise being. And my own existence is an insufficient resource.
I needed to read this today. Thank you! As a highly sensitive person, who tries to take a Stoic approach to life, I am always challenged by different experiences. Reminders like this are so helpful though.
You are the sky not the weather...a helpful tip and already well known is to pause slightly before replying to something you are unsure about...take a breath and say, 'although I mostly agree, I feel...' and get clarification from the other person before assuming their motivation was to attack you. It most likely wasn't and after a poor night's sleep, too much coffee or too much stimulation from other people and work, you are probably not clear in your thinking. The email or written response rule is even easier...wait five mins and then re read before sending. Be the calm observer not the maelstrom.
This is exactly what I needed to read at this point in my stoic studies and journey. Lately I have been reflecting on my emotional reactions to people and how I’ve responded with feeling hurt. Thinking in terms of life being like the weather gives me a new frame of reference to work with. Thank you for this post.
thank you, I was led to this just when I needed to be reminded of it all! 👍💛
Such a well written, amazingly articulate article. Every that was mentioned in this article, I completely resonated with and I am keen to incorporate the mechanisms to overcome these issues.
It's really not what people say or do to you that matters. The thing that matters is what part of your psyche has been triggered is it neglect ,not being seen, you feel abandoned etc. It's about you and if you let their words or actions rock your world. No one has the power over your mind only you do. Be free and flow like water.
I concur, I always think this is such a powerful mindset.
Kindest regards and respect
Carol Power
Johannesburg
South Africa