Taking the time to think about the meaning of our lives I think is paramount as well. Without intentional purpose we remain static. Movement is essential.
Lessons 3 and 4 caught me. A colleague recently left a good job for a calmer one, and my first reaction was a quiet verdict: she’s settling. Reading this, I realise I was the one holding expectations she never agreed to, and that I might be wrong. What I still can’t do is catch it in the moment. How do you tell a description from a judgment while it’s happening in your own head? By the time I notice, the verdict is already in.
The ordinary days are the ones that make up your life. I think this is exactly where most people make a mistake. They hate their weekdays. They hate their jobs. They hate the way they live.
They focus on weekends, vacations, and public holidays, and those are the only days when they truly feel alive.
But instead, they should focus on making their ordinary days better because that’s where we spend the majority of our lives.
Thoughts like "they're annoyed with me" arrive in the same voice we use for facts, so we start answering them. Every reply we rehearse treats the thought as true and gives the imagined argument one more line to answer. The argument keeps going for as long as we keep replying.
It seems to me that very few people pause long enough to assess what they have achieved, whether their lifestyle satisfies them, or to define what else they want and why. Your step to “cross out anything you only want because someone else would see you having it” is that pause made practical. Which item on the list do your readers find hardest to cross out?
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All 10 points were great!
The best I liked was that, it's the ordinary days of life, that make our life what it is. The rest is noise!
Same here
Depth, not highlights
I always say that how I live my life is what people would call "boring", it isn't to me
Taking the time to think about the meaning of our lives I think is paramount as well. Without intentional purpose we remain static. Movement is essential.
Very good advice I must say.
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Lessons 3 and 4 caught me. A colleague recently left a good job for a calmer one, and my first reaction was a quiet verdict: she’s settling. Reading this, I realise I was the one holding expectations she never agreed to, and that I might be wrong. What I still can’t do is catch it in the moment. How do you tell a description from a judgment while it’s happening in your own head? By the time I notice, the verdict is already in.
The ordinary days are the ones that make up your life. I think this is exactly where most people make a mistake. They hate their weekdays. They hate their jobs. They hate the way they live.
They focus on weekends, vacations, and public holidays, and those are the only days when they truly feel alive.
But instead, they should focus on making their ordinary days better because that’s where we spend the majority of our lives.
Thoughts like "they're annoyed with me" arrive in the same voice we use for facts, so we start answering them. Every reply we rehearse treats the thought as true and gives the imagined argument one more line to answer. The argument keeps going for as long as we keep replying.
It seems to me that very few people pause long enough to assess what they have achieved, whether their lifestyle satisfies them, or to define what else they want and why. Your step to “cross out anything you only want because someone else would see you having it” is that pause made practical. Which item on the list do your readers find hardest to cross out?
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I am new here and new at learning philosophy. this is great information for me to begin my journey. I will subscribe soon as I am able. thank you for one of my first teaching essay.
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